To put a nappy on a child or not?
Toddlers going through toilet training are known to press a few of their parents’ buttons. You know what this feels like when a child says to you, “I want to pee” and then, “I do not have to pee” repeatedly. As a parent, you have the best of intentions at heart. You are in a car stopping on the side of the road and going again or, in the midst of getting the child to sleep, taking the child back and forth between toilet and bed. As your patience wears thin, what do you do? Do you put a nappy on the child and be done with it or not? Is there more to it? Consider five points:
1) Use this as an opportunity. You can’t avoid getting triggered. But you can re-train yourself to notice when you’re losing it, and restore yourself to equilibrium, so you make decisions from a wiser (less emotional) place. Once you restore yourself to a state of calm, your child will mirror this.
2) Recognize tantrums are teachers. Be aware your child is simply resisting your desire to control, or buttons you install in yourself during your own childhood. This brings to the surface your own fears so that you can recognize and deactivate them. This is partly a healing process for you. Unlearn from it.
3) Show compassion. Voicing threats send a confusing message. They do not create an atmosphere of trust and safety for your child. When you show compassion and kindness, you are willing to see through the tantrum, to really listen to your child’s feelings. Observe the difference in impact.
4) Change focus. If possible, change the subject briefly or if circumstances permit, go to another room for a break. Do what feels right to calm yourself and then come back to the subject when you regain your composure.
5) Be a loving listener. See deeper into the child’s behaviour. When a child has a tantrum, that child is revealing that his/ her brain is still developing. The child may not have the words to express what s/he wants to say. Imagine the frustration arising within you if you didn’t speak a language and were at a loss. Recognize more goes on than you assume. When you are understanding, you allow yourself to see things from a child’s perspective. Use a calm voice and the child calms in response, showing you the tears and fears behind the anger. From this angle, the situation is less about whether to put a nappy on the child and more about setting an example of being a loving listener.
5 Things about pregnancy that can surprise you
Pregnancy happens. Sometimes its consciously planned, other times not. Like anything, the experience is what you make of it. Consider five things about pregnancy that can surprise you:
1) Changing energy level: during early trimesters, pregnant women generally find they have more energy and thus tend to research and buy what they feel they will need when the baby arrives. Then you can relax.
2) Changing taste preferences: throughout pregnancy, cravings arise for foods you may not usually eat. Listen to the body and feel good about the cravings. Taste preferences that arise also include patterns and textures or materials and products that did not interest you before. Its fun.
3) Increasing passage of body fluids & gas: notice a pregnant woman no longer eat for one but for at least two and maybe more. Frequent urination is common, especially at night, and increased passing of gas too. You can choose to laugh and make the best of it. In many cases, the gas has little or no odour yet can be musical. Everything is preparing body for what is around the corner. Be grateful for increasing body awareness.
4) Feeling good about putting on weight: women are often conditioned to believe they would feel better if they lost weight. Pregnancy is a time in your life when gaining is desirable and healthy, in moderation of course. More specific weight gain relates to your natural body mass. You can check charts, consult health practitioners about this. Feel good about it.
5) Discovering new skills, abilities & talents: as pregnant women increase their own body awareness, they may find it amusing to begin to recognize interests and abilities they were not consciously aware of before. It may be a creative activity related to your nesting instinct like knitting or crocheting, or something completely unrelated to the baby. Whatever the revelation, you are ready to recognize it.
Cloth nappies last for multiple children
You may wonder what happens to reusable cloth nappies after you use them with one child until toilet training. Some people sterilize and re-sell, donate to single mums’ charities or even use them for creative projects. Another option is to use these nappies on multiple kids before anything else. All kinds of ‘hand-me-downs’ have lots of wear left to share.
The initial cost for reusable cloth nappies may seem big. Yet, break this cost down into what you would spend weekly on disposable nappies, and soon it becomes clear reusable nappies can pay for themselves. If you are a parent of more than one child, the savings increase enormously. The economics are only one of many benefits. Helping the environment with less disposables in landfills helps leave the Earth in better shape for future generations. Hence, the timely phrase: ‘you do not inherit the Earth from your ancestors, you bequeath it to your children and their children…”
5 Nice surprises about reusable nappies
When you decide on reusable nappies for your child, its nice to know you are in store for lots of nice surprises. Here are a few that can help give you peace of mind:
1) Entertainment value. The range of colours, textures, patterns and styles can surprise you. This is great for dress up and for baby to enjoy exploring touchy-feely sensations and looking at different angles in a mirror. Baby has endless options for entertainment and so do you.
2) Smooth workflow. Many parents who switch from disposable nappies recognize that no more regular trips to the shops for and no more regularly emptying the diaper bin actually saves you time and energy. You do laundry anyway. Adding a few additional loads per week is no big deal.
3) Sunlight is a natural stain remover. Hanging cloth nappies out on the line in the sun really helps bleach them and get rid of nasty stains.
4) Moonlight helps while you sleep. Sometimes leaving laundry out over night is exactly what is required to make laundry cleaner and brighter.
5) Multi-purpose life. Users of modern cloth nappies (mcns) discover that even after one child or a few children use them and get potty trained, cloth nappies themselves can be re-sold, or taken apart and re-used at home, the cottage, car or wherever. Consider reusing as dusters, shamies, doll clothes, pillow pattern covers or all kinds of things. The only limit is your imagination.
5 Ways reusable nappies can change your life
Parenthood changes the way you experience life. Priorities change. You may have heard about reusable cloth nappies and are not yet totally sold on this option. Ponder five ways reusable nappies can change your life:
1) They draw attention to the kindness of the heart. Reusable cloth nappies are a choice you make as a gesture of kindness. It is like saying you care about your baby’s sensitive skin, the health of the environment and doing what feels right in your own heart.
2) They remind you that you are connected to everything. Choosing the reusable cloth nappy system is showing you are aware your choices do not begin and end with you. It is recognizing choices have consequences. That is, every choice you make has an impact on people you know and do not know, on nature, on that which you see and do not see.
3) They are an opportunity for creative expression. Modern cloth nappies (mcns) come in a range of colours, shapes, fabrics and patterns. You can mix and match products from different companies and even make some parts yourself or all on your own. They help you get in touch with your creative and playful side and uplift the spirit with infinite possibilities.
4) They are economical. Reusable cloth nappies are cost effective and offer value for money. You save money if you use them for one child instead of/ in combination with disposable nappies. You save loads of money if you use the same mcns for multiple children on route to toilet-training.
5) They are teachers. Reusable cloth nappies show you how easy it is to be eco-friendly. This can be a stepping stone to making other eco-friendly choices and enjoying an eco-friendly lifestyle. They remind you that every person’s choices have the power to make a difference in the world.
Love reusable cloth nappies (no pins!)
When I ask my son what he loves about his modern cloth nappies (mcns), he initially lists his favourite colours. He likes having a dry bum and learning colours with his nappies. He likes that he can unsnap them himself after a sleep or during the night to go to the potty. There are many things to love.
My son also uses reusable cloth nappies during playtime. Sometimes he wears the pocket nappies as hats or puts his hands and arms inside them. He creates his own wings to pretend he is a butterfly or an plane in flight. He also acts like he goes shopping and collects the reusable nappies in a basket or lays them out on the bed as his own colour wheel. Options are endless. Ask a child who wears mcns. They are very practical and fun.
Mother or Father Knows best
There is a lot of talk about what is best for baby. Parents have their own ideas. Sometimes mom thinks she knows best. Sometimes dad shares his view. Both seem to agree on choices that equal saving money, fewer visits to the shops for disposable nappies, and caring for Mother Nature. Baby is pleased about the vibrant colours, textures and being tickled by the materials of Oz Nappies pocket nappies.
Modern cloth nappies (mcns) or reusable cloth nappies, have a water-resistant outer shell. The inner is made of soft microfibre and organic materials to sooth sensitive baby behinds. Quality speaks for itself.
Imagine you are skin. Would you not wish for something soft, absorbent and chemical-free? Imagine you are a cloth nappy. What do you enjoy doing best? Getting snapped onto a playful baby, going for a relaxing soak or a spin in the washer or basking in the sun to dry. Options are limitless.
Use colourful nappies you love
You may have heard that doing what you love uplifts the spirit and puts new energy in your steps. Notice that something as simple as having fun with colour and cloth nappies does wonders for your mood and life outlook.
New parents are familiar with sleep deprivation and this can take its toll. You may forget your sense of humour and find yourself irritable or moody. Notice that reusable cloth nappies come in many vibrant and pastel colours as well as patterns not only to entertain the children who wear them. Let a bit more fun in your life. Nurture the child within yourself. Play nappy shop with your child and recognize colour therapy tells you a lot about yourself and how you can choose to see the lighter side of everything that happens.
The Turning Point of Parenthood & home business
Parenthood is a turning point. It is a period in life when you reflect on priorities and make life-changing decisions that can impact your livelihood.
Statistics reveal that after motherhood sets in, 70% of new mums seriously consider exploring home business as a new option. Not surprisingly, a large percentage of new parents (both mums and dads) actually change careers after the baby is born or multiple children arrive. The primary motivation is so they can spend more time with the family. Perhaps you can relate.
Home cloth nappy businesses often arise to allow stay-at-home mums to juggle responsibilities and also to generate income to support their families. Oz Nappies and EcoBumba are two examples, and many others exist. The general message of mums with home businesses is this: identify what you love and its possible to create a rewarding business around that.
Notice Where you are in your life and whether you are contemplating new directions for your focus of attention. Is familiar work still a priority or is your perspective changing? Share your story. What do you learn about life and yourself?
Cloth nappies and playtime
People are given choices about cloth nappies and advice on how to care for them, but when was the last time you and your child played with cloth nappies? You might be surprised at how cloth nappies can nurture the imagination.
Take for example, the basic games of learn your colours or let’s go shopping. Reusable cloth nappies give a whole new meaning to ‘what colour is your parachute’ (or your superhero cape) as you jump off the bed or sofa onto the floor. Modern cloth nappies (mcns) also make great camouflage as you roll through the pretend jungle or swim through a make-believe coral reef. Crawl along the floor and make noise as your favourite animal. See how many mcns you can attach together to work on counting snaps and measuring distances. You are only limited by your imagination. Share some of your game ideas.